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Most of us have heard the phrase "live in the Now," but few of us are taught how to do it when faced with the relentless noise of the modern mind. Practicing the Power of Now is a therapy group involving a structured, six-week immersion into the core teachings of Eckhart Tolle, designed to bridge the gap between reading a book and actually shifting your state of consciousness. Here is a session-by-session breakdown of the themes, inquiries, and practices we explore together. Phase 1: Identifying the "Thinker" Sessions 1 & 2 The journey begins by distinguishing between the "mental noise" of the…

When you love someone with narcissistic traits, it’s natural to wonder if they can ever change. Narcissism often involves patterns of behavior that seem deeply ingrained, such as a need for admiration, lack of empathy, and difficulty accepting responsibility. These traits can cause significant strain in relationships, leaving partners feeling hurt, confused, and hopeful for change. But is change truly possible for a narcissistic partner? This post explores the realities of narcissistic change, what it looks like, and what you can expect if you’re in this situation. Narcissism exists on a…

Do you work in the social services, teaching or health fields? Are you sometimes triggered by your client/student/patient? In the field of counselling it is well recognized that from time to time counsellors will be triggered by a client. Often it is because the client reminds them of someone in the counsellor's personal life or because the client is presenting with challenges that the counsellor is also working through. In these cases it is appropriate for the counsellor to seek supervision, which is a practice of consulting a more experienced counsellor to understand and work through the…

What Burnout Really Is Burnout is not just being tired. It is the exhaustion that builds when the demands placed on you consistently exceed your time, energy, and emotional capacity. It happens slowly, often without you noticing, until even simple tasks feel heavy and rest no longer restores you. Burnout is what happens when effort becomes constant and recovery disappears. You keep going, not because you feel capable, but because stopping feels impossible. What Burnout Feels Like Burnout changes how you experience daily life. You wake up already tired. Your mind feels busy but unfocused. Small…

Usually, two is company, and there’s a crowd, except, in couples counselling, there’s always “a shadow of a third person,” a phrase of Esther Perel’s (Perel, 2016), in every couple’s problem, which, in family systems theory, is called an emotional triangle. Shadows can come from the past, often those of parents or siblings, when a partner unwittingly imitates them when emotions run high, just as a partner might have related to their family (or vice versa!) as a child. Sometimes, living people cast the shadow. Maybe the shadow is your child’s when your partner takes their side when they want…

You might be thinking, “What a strange name for a clinical practice!” If so, I wouldn’t blame you, especially if you’ve ever gotten off on the wrong foot with a crow! Please allow me to answer the obvious question, then: what’s so special about crows? Unquestionably, these birds are unusually temperamental, territorial, and even hold lasting grudges that seem absurd from our point of view. Still, despite these traits, crows are fascinatingly intelligent, have a long and complex history with humanity, and enjoy a positive reputation in some cultures. As someone who loves paradoxes, the paradox…

The start of a new year often arrives with a quiet pressure. That pressure is around that the issues from the past year need to be resolved and this year is the year it finally happens! Even if you don’t consciously buy into the idea of New Year’s resolutions, it can still feel as though January brings an unspoken expectation to reset, improve, or finally “get it together.” For adults with ADHD, this time of year can stir up a complicated mix of hope and apprehension. There is the hope that this year might be different, paired with the familiar worry that it won’t be. Many people with ADHD…

Every New Year we are flooded with motivation. This is the year we will wake up earlier eat better exercise more work harder rest more and somehow do it all without burning out. And yet by February many of those resolutions quietly disappear. The issue is rarely a lack of desire to change. More often it is the way we approach change. We Have Finite Energy and Time One of the biggest misconceptions about New Year’s resolutions is the belief that we can simply add new habits to our lives without removing anything else. As if time and energy will expand just because the calendar changed. In…

For many adults with ADHD, overwhelm isn’t tied to one specific crisis. It’s not always a major deadline, a big life change, or a single stressful event. Instead, it’s the constant accumulation of small things. Emails unanswered, tasks half-started, appointments to book, decisions to make, messages to reply to, laundry to fold, forms to complete, plans to organize. Thoughts that won’t quiet down. Even on days when nothing objectively “bad” is happening, your nervous system can feel overloaded. And when that overwhelm sets in, it’s easy to start questioning yourself: Why does everything feel…

We live in a world that celebrates speed. We demand faster progress, faster responses, and faster healing. Even our self-care often comes with an undertone of urgency: “fix,” “optimize,” “get back to normal.” Our bodies don't move at the pace of urgency. They move at the pace of trust. In my work as a somatic therapist, I’ve learned that the moments of real transformation rarely happen in a rush. They happen in the quiet spaces, when someone slows down enough to feel what’s here right now. It happens when the breath deepens, when the eyes soften, and when the body begins to recognize safety…