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Finding yourself ruminating? Thinking about people in a negative way? Or having critical thoughts about your own behaviour? Thinking on things is normal. But if you are ruminating for so much of the day that it is getting in the way of being able to complete daily tasks like focusing at work or school, exercising, parenting or putting time into your friendships or marriage then the ruminating might be worth treating. Come in and learn what is causing the increase in rumination. Perhaps it's a feeling of being wronged. Increasing our understanding of our own thoughts and behaviour helps reduce…

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) presents unique challenges for adults, often manifesting in difficulties with attention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. While these core symptoms are typically managed through medication, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) offers an additional layer of support by addressing the broader life impairments caused by ADHD. Understanding Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a short-term, goal-oriented form of psychotherapy that acts like brain training for ADHD. The primary aim of CBT is not to treat the core symptoms of…

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a debilitating condition that affects many individuals who have experienced or witnessed traumatic events. While there are various therapeutic approaches to treat PTSD, Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment (TIST) offers a comprehensive method that integrates principles from multiple therapeutic models. Understanding how TIST works and its benefits can provide valuable insights for those seeking effective counselling for PTSD. What is PTSD? PTSD is a mental health condition triggered by experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event. Symptoms may…

Are you feeling stifled in your relationship? Not sure if you are in love anymore? Having an increased frequency of arguments? You might be in the stage of your relationship where you're negotiating your needs with your partner's needs. Couples Experts Ellyn Bader and her partner Peter saw over 50, 000 couples in the United States and created the Developmental Model of Couple Relationships: A Positive Outlook on How Relationships Develop. In the beginning of the relationship it's common to feel like there's so much similarity between us, almost like we grew up together. The lovely bonding…

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental condition characterized by challenges in attention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. While traditional treatments such as medication and behavioral therapy are commonly employed, an emerging approach gaining recognition for its effectiveness in addressing ADHD is Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. Offering a holistic perspective that delves into the complexities of the mind, IFS therapy provides a unique framework for individuals with ADHD to navigate their symptoms and foster self-awareness, resilience, and empowerment…

It might seem like a stretch to think that experiences with your caregiver that happened as early as day one...or even hour one...of life, would influence how you might experience relationships as an adult. Those non-verbal cues like eye contact, your caregiver's tone, their presence (consistent or otherwise), whether they held you, hugged you, and so many other interactions all affected future relationship. That's not intended to sound ominous but more, to help you possibly understand how some of the strengths or maybe vulnerabilities within your relationships now, might be influenced. If…

It is common and understandable to have reactions to "parts work". It is becoming a common way of working with trauma and family dysfunction that has been made popular by Internal Family Systems (IFS). I use it a lot in my work with people. Common reactions are - I don't have parts, I am just me, or that parts are not real; we imagine them. There may be other reactions. One that comes up for me (even though I work in this way) is that I don't like to go along with the latest fad and that nothing is new. So, I want to put IFS into perspective and discuss how we might see a "part."…

Do you find yourself easily thrown off? If something goes wrong at work are you ruminating for days or weeks? If you don't get a text returned do you feel so hurt that you can't study, go to the gym or even get out of bed? Making space for feelings is important, yes. In recent years, however, I see an increased number of people who are suffering from an inability to gather themselves, to muster, to gain perspective, and to carry on. If this resonates with you keep reading. How do we get grit? Here are some tools to add to your belt to help you increase your mental strength: (1) Get in their…

I am going to say something somewhat controversial. We have very few needs in our relationships. I might go as far as saying that we don’t need anything from our partner. We need air to breathe and food to eat. This is the level of need. It is associated with our survival. Language is powerful. This is why when we use the word need to express what we want in relationships it has the energy of ‘must-have urgency’ behind it. It is a demand. Let’s compare expressions for a moment. I need your attention vs I want your attention or can I have your attention? Take a moment to say each phrase out…

Living with ADHD is a unique journey that presents its own set of challenges and opportunities for growth. This condition goes beyond occasional distractions or forgetfulness; it profoundly influences one’s ability to manage daily tasks, maintain relationships, and achieve personal goals. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) intricately weaves through the fabric of an individual’s life, affecting their emotional, academic, and professional landscapes. The support of skilled professionals illuminates the path to managing ADHD symptoms more effectively. Engaging with ADHD Support…